May you and I know people with discerning eyes and treat those who are beloved.
Mo Yan said this paragraph in "late ripening people":
"people with good natures mature late and are urged to mature by bad people.
later, although he was enlightened, he was still kind and sincere, constantly looking for his own kind. "
such people, even after suffering, still have rare qualities.
in life, to really accurately evaluate and judge a person, not by what he said, but by what he did.
if you want to really see a person clearly, you only need to observe these three things.
anger shows character
when we were young, when we encountered unpleasant things, we were often furious and angry.
as we grow up, we gradually understand that even if we have emotions in our hearts, we should maintain basic decency, be cautious in words and deeds, speak appropriately, and behave reasonably.
We are beginning to understand that anger will not solve the problem and will make things worse and worse.
No matter how difficult it is, we all have to face it.
and when you are in a bad mood, you are more likely to make wrong judgments, choices and decisions.
the bigger the temper when something happens, the more exposed the problems such as insufficient cultivation, small pattern, low realm, and so on.
Cai Yuanpei, president of Peking University, once vigorously advocated vernacular, which caused strong dissatisfaction among scholars Lin Shu.
in order to oppose this measure, he wrote Jingsheng and Demon Dream in succession, and portrayed Cai Yuanpei as the heinous King of Rip.
in the face of this humiliation, ordinary people would have started the case a long time ago, but Cai Yuanpei did not.
while appeasing his aggrieved friends, he took his calligraphy works and personally sent them to Lin Shu's home to "find fault" with him.
when Lin Shu received his calligraphy, he felt ashamed and immediately withdrew his "demon dream" and never spoke again.
people who are really powerful will use reason to control emotions.
change what can be changed, accept what cannot be changed.
Don't let the present environment affect your future life, let alone torture your own mood with the actions of others.
as the saying goes, "if you are angry, you might as well laugh; for those who are hard to tolerate, you might as well respect him for three points."
leave a trace of decency to others beforehand and peace to yourself afterwards.
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behind emotional stability is not only the character, but also the pattern.
see self-cultivation for details
I have heard a story.
A Fortune 500 company has posted a recruitment message, and there is a steady stream of people coming for interviews.
the personnel manager was so puzzled that he couldn't help asking:
"he has neither employee recommendation nor special talent. Why did you choose him? "
the chairman said:
of all, he is the best. When he entered the door, he carefully wiped the mud off his shoes and closed the door quietly, which showed that he was considerate and cautious.
when he enters the office, he takes off his hat and answers questions decisively, which shows that he is polite and cultured.
he is neatly dressed, his hair is neat, his nails are clean, and his tone is neither humble nor arrogant, which shows that he is decent and generous.
and these details are difficult to achieve without inner upbringing and long-term self-requirements.
so he must make a difference in the future.
the little things in daily life, like a mirror, can see a person's character;
the details of doing things, like a ruler, can measure a person's self-cultivation.
this is the truth of the saying that "major events in the world must be done in detail".
people with real self-cultivation can't pretend.
it is not only the constraint in front of the person, but also the self-discipline after the person. Every seemingly inconspicuous detail is actually an internal refraction.
see trough pattern
Zeng Guofan, a famous minister in the late Qing Dynasty, also experienced numerous troughs and failures in his life.
when the Hunan army was first founded, the court ordered Zeng Guofan to go to war, but he was ambushed and the soldiers fled one after another.
with shame and indignation, Zeng Guofan jumped into the Xiangjiang River and was lucky to be rescued by his aide Zhang Shoulin.
although Zeng Guofan learned his lessons and summed up his experience, he was badly hit in the next Battle of Hukou, and he himself nearly died in the fire.
as Zeng Guofan said, "I have made progress in my life, all at the time of humiliation."
Life has its ups and downs, and where there is the best part, there must be a trough.
the trough can be a heavy burden to break a person, or an opportunity to achieve a person.
whether a person has a pattern or not depends not on his height when he reaches the peak, but on his resilience after falling into the trough.
as the saying goes, "when you are high, you do not rejoice too much; when you are low, you do not give up."
people who really have a pattern have the courage to face failure squarely.
can introspect in frustration, grow in frustration, build up strength in trough, and wait for the time of Nirvana rebirth.
there is a saying: "you think you can fool everyone, but you don't know, people have already seen you through."
whether a person is true or false, good or bad, can be seen through some things.
look at character in emotional ups and downs, self-cultivation in details, and pattern in troughs.
No matter how good-looking skin is not as good as a sincere heart, no matter how amazing talent is not as good as reliable conduct.
Life has a long way to go, not all people can be trusted, and not all relationships will last long.
but if you can meet people with character, self-cultivation and pattern, it is the greatest luck in the world and the greatest wealth in this life.
, may you and I know people with discerning eyes and treat people who are beloved.
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